Genesis 2:21-25 (NKJV) 21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
(We will be joining Pastor Steve and Dilonna Coran at their great church, Faith Fellowship Worship Center, in Jersey Shore PA. We will be teaching on the subject of marriage so I thought I would share some thoughts in my blog as well.)
I want to continue to look at the topic of marriage from a biblical perspective. As I have traveled the world and had the privilege of addressing congregations on 5 of the 7 continents, I have stressed that we need to allow the bible to transcend our culture. Marriage is an intensely cultural institution even here in the United States. However, we must realize that the culture must be conformed to the Word of God not the other way around. This is true no matter where we live.
Yesterday in looking at these verses, we found two things about marriage as God created it. First, God caused all the cattle, birds of the air, and the beasts of the field and he named them. Why did God do such a thing? The next verse tells us that there was nothing in all of those creatures that could be a helpmate to Adam. God did what he did so Adam would understand that.
Second, we found that God took something out of Adam and from that created this perfect helpmate. This creation was genetically identical to man and yet different. What God took out of Adam was that aspect of him that is female. God represents himself to us as male but from where did “female” come? It did not come somewhere other than God.
Therefore, we see that nothing else will work as a partner for Adam and that God created the perfect helpmate for him: Someone exactly like him but very different at the same time. Despite culture or popular opinion, that is God’s ordained plan. He made Eve for Adam and Adam for Eve. Nothing else will work.
As we continue to study this passage. Adam makes a declaration when he sees Eve. One preacher said you could interpret his words this way. “Wow!!!! That’s exactly what I needed.” I could not agree more, but I think there is even more to it.
Adam says that the woman is, “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Adam acknowledges that the woman was actually a part of him. In the New Testament Paul says that in marriage the two become one flesh. The biblical plan for marriage is that it be the most intimate relationship possible between two people. Woman was taken out of man and in marriage, there is to be a reunification of those two aspects of God. The two become one.
There is a physical truth that makes God’s purpose very clear. God created Adam from the dust of the earth and then created Eve from the substance of Adam’s body. He never created another person in the same way. Why not? It was God’s perfect plan that his children become partners in creation with him. However, there is only one way to release the creative power of God. The male and female aspects of the creator must reunite. The two must become one again to conceive a child!
The church I now pastor is the third church we started. All three still exist, but this one is by far the best. When we began the second church, we were still very young in ministry and in life. We did not have “fathers and mothers in the faith.” Because we did not have anyone to ask for advice, we made many mistakes. One of the mistakes I made was not brining my wife into the proper place in the ministry.
There was a physically older couple involved in our ministry. They were quite successful and we developed a very good relationship. Because of their life experience, we began to look to them for advice and help. The problem was that they were new to the things of the spirit. I allowed myself to depend on the wife in particular in a way that was not right. It was nothing sexual or anything like that, but it pushed my wife to the side.
This church was almost as big as our current church, but we never had enough musicians. There was not a real creative flow in the church. I did not understand why until I saw this principle in Genesis. In order for creation to flow, the male and female must come together. You cannot create a child by being friends. The only way to create a child is through the most intimate act that can occur between two people.
We try to make sex just another form of entertainment in our culture, but it is not. Every sexual encounter you have creates an intimacy like nothing else. That is why God reserves this wonderful act for marriage.
1 Corinthians 6:15-16 (NKJV) 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.”
God designed us to release creativity through this intimacy. The creation of children is the first dimension of this truth. However, I believe that when male and female are properly joined in the marriage relationship it releases all kinds of creativity and elevates it to a higher level.
In this church, I brought my wife next to me from the very beginning. She is in perfect order because she is submitted to me as her husband. Nevertheless, I make a place for her gifts to function. I promote her and release her to be what God made her to be. In the same way, she promotes me. We are not intimidated by one another. We understand that we each bring something to the process and we rejoice in that.
The result in this church has been an outpouring of creativity. We have more musicians than we can use. We have artists and people who work in video and computers. We have people who can build and write. We have a dance team and some wonderful drama. I am not saying that single people cannot be creative. They certainly can. I do believe that my wife and I have set a tone in our church so that male and female both have a place to function within divine order and the result is a flow of creativity through the whole church.
If you are single, you should flow in the gifts God has given you and he will help you be creative in whatever way he made you to be. If you are married, you need to realize that you will never fulfill the full potential of your creativity until you both bring what God has given you to the process. This is one of the mysteries of marriage. The physical side is obvious. I believe the physical, emotional and spiritual sides are just as true.
If you are a married man, make sure you make a place for your wife to participate. 1 Peter 3:7 says we are heirs together of the grace of life. If you do not promote your wife’s creative nature, who will? You will find that a woman who knows her husband is acknowledging and promoting her gifts will be far more likely to submit to his leadership.
If you are a married woman, let your husband be whom God made him. Promote him and help him. In our society, men are under attack. However, women need to realize that the full potential of their creative life cannot be fulfilled unless it is joined to the creative potential of the male. Finding this balance will release creativity in business, ministry and every other area of life.